- 9th July, 2019
Starting a Business with Vulnerability and Shame
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Starting a business was, and four years on still is, Scary and we do mean the capital S! Although we are hugely proud of what we have created at Workplace. We also know we have a great product, working team and ethic, some days, especially at the beginning we feel paralysed with fear at the enormity of what we are doing.
Having always been employees before Workplace, this fear of starting a new business was quite new to us.
We started to look at what it was that was causing this fear. We wanted to understand it and start using our fear in a positive way. This led us to TED and to two talks by Brene Brown about shame and vulnerability – WOW. She also has a great Netflix presentation that is well worth a watch.
In the past, we have worked on a number of projects which involved starting a business. Mostly very successfully, which is a great feeling. The elation of success is the best while feeling a failure is the worst. We have been there and it wasn’t a great feeling!
Learn by mistakes
People tell you that you learn by these mistakes and you need them to be truly successful, but failure stinks and most people would honestly prefer to avoid that at any costs.
To do that however we need to live in a sealed box, not communicate, try to do anything with our lives and especially not start a new business, that would be crazy!
If you are the same and can’t understand what it was that you are so scared of, listen to Brene it will all slot in to place.
It’s the shame that comes with failure or possible failure. The loss of pride and self-esteem, the inner feeling of all the things that you should and should not have done and the stories that we tell ourselves over and over again just to reaffirm how totally stupid we were and are.
So what to do about all these feelings and life affirming negative tales we re-run in our heads. Well according to our new BF, Brene Brown, you can’t experience happiness, success, elation without also opening up to fear, shame and vulnerability.
These are essential to wholehearted living. Wholehearted living is going at life and whatever you do with all of your heart. Brene tells about how in her research she found that the people who felt loved and engaged also felt they were worthy of this love. She talks about how shame and guilt are very different and about the need for shame and vulnerability.
So the lessons to learn are that we are okay to feel fear, shame and vulnerability and that we should open up to this and not take the option to hide under our duvet for the rest of our lives. This fear, shame and vulnerability are all part of courage, courage is about the heart and your wholehearted living.
Worthy of your shame, your vulnerability and your fear. You are also worthy of happiness because we have the courage and bravery to take this opportunity, run with it, change it, make it happen.
We are creating something at Workplace that has not been done before which is the meaning of creation. There is nothing that makes you more vulnerable than creating something new. We are now in a position that four year in to our business we are re-creating. re-thinking to make sure we have a solid future.
Our timing is now, we can’t keep putting it off waiting for when starting a new business might be more perfect, more settled, less fearful, less vulnerable. We have to charge at vulnerability and go for it.
So it turns out that vulnerability is the birthplace of innovation, creativity and change. From being paralysed with fear we are now shouting at vulnerability: ‘Bring it on!’
This is why we started a business: to support people who feel exactly the same way as we do, who have the courage to go it alone, stand out and make it happen. We will be in this together.
Watch Brene Brown’s TED Talks for inspiration: https://www.ted.com/speakers/brene_brown
The Power of Vulnerability
Listening to Shame
Vulnerability and shame. Vulnerability and shame are ok! ( especially when you are starting a new business)
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